In Her Own Words : I was forced to become one of his 27 ‘wives’

Evelyn Amony was abducted by the Ugandan rebel group known as the Lord’s Resistance Army (LRA) when she was only 12 years old. For nearly three decades, this rebel group has committed a range of atrocities including the abduction of children, rape, killing, maiming and sexual slavery. Today Evelyn is Chair of the Women’s Advocacy Network, comprised of over 400 formerly abducted and war-affected women, many of whom are speaking out and effectively advocating for gender justice in Uganda. In her own words, she tells her story…

Evelyn Amory : Photo courtesy of Theresia Thylin/UN Trust Fund

Evelyn Amory : Photo courtesy of Theresia Thylin/UN Trust Fund

I used to not be able to talk about my experiences in the Lord’s Resistance Army [LRA] because it made me get these terrible flashbacks. I will never forget, but now I can talk about my experiences.

I was abducted by the LRA when I was only 12 years old. One of the really bad things that happen to young girls in the LRA is that they are forced to have sex with the commanders even though they are not ready for such a relationship. I was forced to stay with the LRA leader Joseph Kony [who together with his top commanders is indicted for war crimes and crimes against humanity by the International Criminal Court].

When I was there, I was forced to become one of his 27 “wives”. I gave birth to three children in captivity and the worst thing that happened to me during my 11 years in the LRA was when one of my children went missing in the cross-fire in February 2004. I have searched for my daughter in both Uganda and South Sudan but have been unable to find her and I am unaware of her fate. One year after, during another exchange of fire, I managed to escape with my two other children. Today, I live with my surviving children and have also adopted two of Kony’s other children after their mother died. After I escaped, I stayed at a reception centre and the young children that had lost their mother knew me. When I was about to leave the centre the children started crying and it was painful for me to leave them so I decided to adopt them. Today, I also have two children with my new partner.

Formerly abducted women and their children born in captivity face a lot of stigma and discrimination when we return from captivity. I’m originally from Atiak, a town that was marked by a large massacre.

When I came back, the wife of one of my uncles showed me the graves of all the family members that have been killed.  She looked at me and said, ‘Kony’s children are still moving but our children are all buried’. That made me fear for the security of my children if we were to live in Atiak.

I joined together with women in the same situation to seek justice and reconciliation for war-affected women and our communities. Today, I am the Chair of the Women’s Advocacy Network, a network comprised of over 400 formerly abducted and war-affected women.

One of the achievements of the network is that we have presented a petition seeking the intervention of the Parliament in addressing issues and challenges faced by war-affected women in the Acholi sub-region. Earlier this month, I was there when the Parliament of Uganda debated the petition and thereafter adopted a resolution calling for reparations for war-affected women and other victims of the LRA. I felt so happy, and I was so happy that Members of Parliament across the political spectrum all supported the petition. It was something I had longed for!

The Government has not given anything to us, the formerly abducted women. Many of the men who have left the LRA have been integrated into the army and are receiving a salary but we, the women who were abducted by these men, have not received anything until now.

I hope that the resolution will generate an acknowledgement of the suffering of the women and that the Government will issue an apology. The Women’s Advocacy Network also calls on the Government to provide support to the women affected by war. For me personally, the most important thing would be if the Government could pay the school fees for my children.

As the Chair of the Woman’s Advocacy Network, I now have confidence to continue to speak out and to move on. I went through a lot of pain but I have a feeling that my life will change. I have already reached another level.

As transitional justice measures in Uganda -including the adoption of a transitional justice policy- are still in the making, we, the women formerly abducted by the LRA, have become an important voice in the struggle for gender justice. Every voice matters. We can all contribute as women at the grass-roots are playing our part in overcoming the challenges we continue to face.

Cross-posted from UN Women.

Landmark Resolution : The Women’s Advocacy Network, which is an initiative of the Justice and Reconciliation Project has managed to reach several war-affected communities and succeeded in attracting the attention of the Ugandan Parliament. With support of partners of the UN Trust Fund to End Violence against Women such as the International Center for Transitional Justice, Women’s Initiatives for Gender Justice and other partners like Gulu District Local Government, the Network presented a petition to the local government and subsequently to the national Parliament. Evelyn was present when the Parliament of Uganda debated the petition and on 9 April 2014 the Parliament adopted a landmark resolution calling for the reparations for war-affected women and other victims of the LRA.

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4 Responses to In Her Own Words : I was forced to become one of his 27 ‘wives’

  1. Betty, this is such an amazing and inspiring story. Out of so much heartache and tragedy something remarkably good is happening. Thank you so much for sharing it!

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  2. heraldmarty says:

    Thank you so much for sharing Evelyn’s story! No matter how much we attempt to educate ourselves about what these women are experiencing there is no possible way for us to truly understand, at best we can hope to have compassion. I couldn’t help but think about the work KIVA is doing when reading about how the women survivors have so little support from the government. I’ve been a supporter of KIVA for years and they do such wonderful work to help people working to build independence, if they aren’t already working with them it would be wonderful if they were to find a way to become involved.

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    • Every time I read or hear one of these stories I also fail to understand how so many women are suffering through so much and getting so little support. Thank you for reading HERstory and your welcome comments.

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